Lack of communication between husband and wife can ruin a loving relationship, here's how

Lack Of Communication Between Husband And Wife Can Ruin A loving Relationship, Here's How

 Couples who do not consciously speak to each other may face problems with growth and intimacy in the relationship.

 Conflicts in relationships can arise for a variety of reasons. Poor communication is the main cause of toxic and unhealthy relationships. Lack of communication in a relationship can threaten your very existence. Generally, a communication disorder involves one of two scenarios: both partners have stopped talking about important things, or both partners cannot have a normal conversation without turning it into an argument. Couples who do not consciously communicate with each other often face problems related to relationship growth and intimacy. While many partners feel that communication strategies don't need a lot of attention, ultimately this is the one thing that is really crucial in healthy and happy relationships.

 ► COMMON REASONS FOR BREAKING COMMUNICATION  IN RELATIONSHIPS

 Lack of trust

 Without disputes, transparency and trust are the pillars of a successful relationship. If they disappear, they can quickly cause communication disruptions. Absolute transparency remains the key to open communication in relationships.

 Busy lifestyle

 Making time for your spouse becomes difficult when you are both working full time. Tight deadlines, stress at work, conflicting work schedules, or even difficult relationships with the team or an executive can negatively affect an intimate relationship. In such situations, people begin to internalize stress and only experience the other in the relationship as a burden. This creates a huge communication gap that ultimately negatively affects the relationship.

 A traumatic event

 An external shock or trauma can quickly change the dynamics of a relationship. Trauma or external shocks can be:

 1.  Loss or grief

 2. Sudden unemployment

 3. Damage to health or illness

 4. Accident

 A sudden traumatic event can change a person. This can also affect the way the person communicates with his or her spouse, family, and friends.

 Unhealthy patterns of behavior

 Communication in relationships can also be broken if one or both partners show unhealthy patterns of behavior. It may include:

 1.  Constantly trying to hurt or abuse  partner in daily interactions

 2.  Constant criticism of personality or hurtful attacks

 3.  Defensive in arguments

 4.  Refusing to open up or speak clearly 

 ► EFFECTS OF INCORRECT COMMUNICATION ON RELATIONSHIPS

 1.  Loneliness

 2.  Creating a negative perspective of the partner

 3.  Lack of intimacy

 4.  Feeling lost or invisible

 5.  Difficulty achieving goals

 ► WAYS TO REGULATE COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS

 Listen more, talk less

 When emotions intensify, everyone wants to express their point of view, so no one is really interested in the solution or the conversation. Constant interruptions in the conversation are a sign that you don't think the other person has something important to discuss and you just want to express your own opinion about them. The goal of the conversation is to listen to the other without breaking the constant momentum. A better listener can influence, convince and negotiate. Furthermore, a good listener can also keep conflicts and misunderstandings at bay.

 Addressing past problems

 One of the most common reasons couples do not communicate properly is because something painful or unbearable happened in their relationship that was not resolved. It is important to process such painful incidents, rebuild trust, and forgive each other to get the relationship working again.

 Avoid Unfair Comments

 Effective communication easily ends when a person in a relationship makes unfair comments or brings up things from the past, especially situations that have never been resolved. It is imperative that both  partners avoid words like "you" and "you always." Words like these can easily steer the conversation in the wrong direction. Instead, couples should try to address each other by lovingly shouting their first names. This is an effective technique to dilute anger.

Dinesh G.Shastri