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 Be One of Those People Who Change The Time A New Year is the time when a lot of people stumble upon the realization, “Oh! Another year has gone by!” For a few seconds or minutes, we wonder about the current of time that flows by and then again get busy or lost in the world outside. The funny thing is that this happens nearly every year. If we go deeper into these moments of wonder, we realize that there is an aspect of us that is a witness to all the events of the time. This witness inside us is unchanging and it is from here that we observe all the change that time brings. All the events in life until this moment appear like a dream. Wisdom is becoming aware of this dream-like nature of life even as it is unfolding now. Knowing this brings tremendous strength from within and you do not get shaken by events and circumstances. At the same time, events have their own place in life. We need to learn from them and keep moving. In the past year, how many days were you in sannyas?...

 Want a Successful Marriage?  Spouses Should Do These 10 Things For Each Other Often When the stresses of juggling career and home life get to you, use these positive habits to keep your marriage healthy and strong. What's the secret to a happy and long-lasting marriage for busy professionals and entrepreneurs? No different than anybody else. It's to learn to develop the kind of genuine love that does not seek to gain, but only to give. For starters, it doesn't say, "I want to date this woman because the market valuation for her business is 5 million!" Genuine, unconditional love has no fine print. It has no ulterior motives. So what does that look like in real life if you're about to tie the knot? Or, even if you've been at it for 10, 15 years? You have to know each other at the core of your gender identity. Men and women have very different and specific needs. 10 Things Women Need In a Marriage Do you know what the #1 need of a woman is? ...

 9 Marriage Expectations That Could Destroy Your Relationship These are the things you should never ask of your partner. In a marriage, spouses continually need each other, whether it's for emotional support during a hard time or to attend a boring work event so one doesn't have to suffer alone. But some expectations of your husband — or of your marriage — are unrealistic. Here, experts draw the line between what's acceptable and what's simply asking too much. 1. Making him choose between you and his mother. Whatever your issue is with your mother-in-law — maybe he sometimes puts her first, or your personalities just clash — it's best for you to really put forth the effort to resolve the problem. She is, after all, the reason he exists in the first place. Plus, allowing little squabbles between the two of you — like getting frustrated because she insists on sitting in the passenger seat when he drives — to become a bigger issue puts the burden on him, and th...

 The Way To Be Free From Worldly Pressures Children play with masks. The more grotesque the mask, the greater is their amusement. The secret to their enjoyment is the fact that they know the mask is different from them. The word ‘personality’ comes from the Latin word ‘persona’, which means ‘mask’. If your body, mind and intellect are a mask, then who are you? You believe the mask is you. You are then limited by the mask. If you have a headache, you cannot think. You become incapacitated when you have an altercation with your spouse and get upset by an argument over politics. The body, mind, and intellect that have been given for you to enjoy become a source of misery. You are a mind-boggling combination of matter and Spirit. You have identified with the matter components and are oblivious of the Spirit. Hence, whatever happens to them happens to you. When the body feels cold, you are uncomfortable. When the mind is hurt by a nasty remark, you feel hurt. This is the most uninte...

 Happiness Is Available, Help Yourself To It Every day we have many feelings. Sometimes we are happy, sometimes we are sorrowful, sometimes angry, irritated or afraid; and these feelings fill our mind and heart. One feeling lasts for a while, and then another comes, and another, as if there is a stream of feelings for us to deal with. Practising meditation is to be aware of each feeling. The Abhidharma writings on Buddhist psychology say that feelings are of three kinds: pleasant, unpleasant and neutral. When we step on a thorn, we have an unpleasant feeling. When someone says something nice to us, ‘You are very smart,’ or ‘You are very beautiful,’ we have a pleasant feeling. And there are neutral feelings, such as when you sit there and don’t feel either pleasant or unpleasant … I find this analysis incorrect. A so-called neutral feeling can become very pleasant. If you sit down, very beautifully, and practise breathing and smiling, you can be very happy. When you sit in this ...

 Four Tips To Control Jealousy How to defeat "the jealousy ." Jealousy is a complex emotion encompassing feelings that range from fear of rejection, loss, and abandonment, to humiliation, anguish, and even rage. In essence, jealousy strikes when a person perceives a third-party threat to a valued relationship (which distinguishes it from envy, which involves the desire for things, status, or position someone else has). Jealousy is a tricky, two-edged emotional sword because, in small amounts, it can serve to protect important relationships by motivating people to be attentive and act desirably. In large amounts, however, jealousy is often very corrosive to relationships and can even give rise to violence that can utterly destroy them. As suggested above, people do not express jealousy through a single emotion or a single behavior. Rather, they express it through diverse emotions and behaviors. Nevertheless, looking at it through a higher magnification, the common experi...

 2 Ways to Deal with Jealousy Positively Jealousy. The emotion we just can’t help but feel when someone we know (or maybe even don't know!) is doing better than us in some way. Whether it’s a co-worker getting a promotion, your best friend getting married before you, or even your sister losing the baby weight so quickly, we all get jealous. It’s human nature. The problem with jealousy is we don’t use it in the right way. We often sulk, complain, and just sit there creating negativity within ourselves and for those around us. Meanwhile, we do nothing to improve our own situation. Our normal reaction to jealousy is negative and often expressed by talking badly about the person we are jealous of and trying to diminish their light in some way. Jealousy can cause us to do and say things we don’t like. It turns us into people we don't want to be, and by doing so it hides our own light! But what if we started looking at jealousy in a different way? In a more positive way. Rath...

 3 Micro-Behaviors that Indicate Self-Confidence Issues Small Deliberate Actions That Could Help Address Them 5 min read Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have. — Brian Tracy, Self-development Author I am usually not a fan of self-help books or motivational speakers. But the above quote is one that I’ve grown to like a fair bit. I’ve always believed that self-confidence is your biggest and most important strength, and it can often help overcome many shortcomings. It is a completely intrinsic quality that you need to build within yourself, yet one most of us lack significantly. Self-confidence in many ways is relative. We’re often easily overwhelmed by the occasion or the presence of others, and end up losing that faith in ourselves. Worst still, most of the time we don’t even realize it. There are subtle everyday behaviors that indicate some degree of lack of self-confidence that we consistently re...

 Signs That You May Have Had COVID-19 Did I Have It and Not Know It? The COVID-19 virus may have been around longer than we originally thought. So people may have had the virus and recovered from it without knowing. Some telltale signs could indicate that you’re one of those people. A ‘Bad Cold’ It’s not uncommon to get a cold during the winter. But if you had one in late 2019 or early 2020, there’s a chance your cold might have actually been COVID-19. One way to know the difference is that COVID can stick around 2 weeks or longer, while a cold typically lasts only a few days. And unlike a cold, COVID could have caused a fever and made it hard for you to breathe. Shortness of Breath This isn’t typically a symptom of a cold or the flu, but feeling like you can’t breathe is common with COVID-19. You may have thought you had bronchitis, which COVID-19 can cause. Or it may have felt like anxiety or a panic attack. But with COVID, shortness of breath lasts longer than a pani...

 10 Life Lessons I learned -From Swami Vivekananda Teachings of Swami Vivekananda About Swami Vivekananda Born in 1863, Swami Vivekananda was a social reformer who fought against many social evils which were plaguing the Indian society during the 19th and 20th century. For this purpose, he advocated a kind of Hinduism which doesn’t discriminate on the basis of gender or caste but puts forth ideas on how to lead a meaningful life. He wished to capture the essence of Hinduism and spread it in the world and also founded the Ramakrishna Mission dedicated to propagating the philosophies of Vedanta and yogic ideals of Jnana, Bhakti, Karma, and Raja Yoga. Thus, in a sense, Swami Vivekananda dedicated his life towards first understanding the world around him through the lens of Hinduism and then spreading that knowledge for the greater good of humanity. Therefore, it’s important to know and understand the teachings of Swami Vivekananda in order to arrive at a better understanding of ...

 22 Tips of One-Line Advice for 2022 3 minute summary of my 45 years of life   No matter who you are or where you live, the last two years have been a bit if an anomaly that none of us was prepared for. It just seems like the anomaly is probably a norm. Yet, such black swan events aside, some life lessons stand the test of time and circumstances and work for nearly everyone. Let’s dive straight into them. 1.        If you are to procrastinate, procrastinate on worrying, push it by just one more day, every day. 2.        Stop saving and planning only for retirement. 60-year-old you will be OK if 30-year old you learned to live a little. 3.        Financial independence doesn’t come from a big bank account, it comes from learning to live the way you can afford. 4.        If someone else’s path to success was so easy for you to take, they would nev...

 Newton's Laws Resound With Indian Way of Thinking Isaac Newton was not only an eminent mathematician and physicist but also an erudite philosopher, a deeply spiritual person and a theologian known for Biblical literalism. To most of us, Newton is known for his laws of motion, and there appears to be a striking similarity between these laws and some tenets of Indic philosophy. Newton’s first law, also known as the law of inertia, states that if a thing is at rest, it will continue to be at rest and if it is in motion, it will continue to be so unless an external force is applied. Inertia is common among people with predominantly tamasic tendencies. They can be lazy and indolent, and many times need an external stimulus to get moving. Similarly, those with a hyperactive nature might find it difficult to be at peace with themselves. So, to bring change in their temperament requires external interventions such as regular physical exercise and meditation. The second law is that i...

 Not Optimist or Pessimist, But an Agathist Learning a new word is always exciting. More so, when a favorite author like Agatha Christie is named after it. The word ‘agathism’, says Anu Garg – who comes up with a word a day at wordsmith.org – is from the Greek ‘agathos’ which means ‘good’. In the English language, agathism refers to the doctrine that, in the end, all things tend towards good. We often hear it said, “Whatever happens, happens for the good.” It may seem like escapism; it may even sound glib and irresponsible, but the fact is, this is what sages who put together the Upanishads meant when they advised us to learn to accept the things that you cannot change; practise equanimity. Garg explains that an optimist would say that everything is for the best. An agathist, on the other hand, would say that what’s happening right now may be unfortunate or evil, but ultimately, it will all end well. Mieke Eerkens writes in All Ships Follow Me, a family memoir of war across t...